Have you read The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up? Watched Marie Kondo bring that Life-Changing Magic to life on Netflix? I love Marie Kondo’s work and she says it best, “The best way to find out what we really need is to get rid of what we don’t.”
Most of us have cluttered energy fields. But what exactly is your “Energy Field?”
You can think of your energy field as your energetic closet. We collect ideas, beliefs and ways of doing things or ‘being’ and it may not be what we love. Like a well-organized closet containing our favorite things, we are meant to have a clear and joyful aura – or energy field.
Over time, we have collected ideas, traumas, beliefs and ways of being from others as well as modern society at large. When the energy you are carrying is not your own, it can be dull, or dense, almost like a heavy fog or smoke. We become accustomed to it, but over time it weighs us down.
Imagine how it feels when you open your closet and all of this stuff pours out…stuff that you didn’t even buy, but you held onto because of obligation, or guilt? Or, maybe you bought something that you loved 5 years ago, but it either no longer fits, or you just don’t like the way it looks anymore…or maybe it has a hole or rip in it that you always meant to fix, but never did. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Now, I want you to imagine a different scenario. How would it feel like to open that closet and see only what you love – like you are shopping at your favorite store – and that store is your very own beautiful closet? Really feel into it— your very own Pinterest closet. Maybe you’ve seen the “pinterest fails” floating around on the Internet and worry you won’t get the results that you want in your life. But this is all an experiment, and believe me, this one is worth trying.
How Human Design Can Help with the Overwhelm
Go ahead and pull up your Human Design chart on the next tab on your browser. (Haven’t looked up your chart yet? You can get yours here).
In Human Design, we can first take a look at our centers. If an energy center is colored in, or “defined”, then you have consistency and reliability in the way you experience the particular energy that center represents. This defined energy is somewhat fixed for you and you are broadcasting this energy out into the world – influencing and inspiring others. You are less likely to hold conditioning in the defined centers, but it is still possible – mostly from your childhood.
If the center is white, or “open”/(“undefined”), then you experience that particular energy in many, many ways. You are taking in, or receiving the energy of that center from around you and amplifying it. The open centers can be areas of vulnerability and sensitivity for you, given that you are open to what is going on around you. It will feel “even bigger” than the original energy you received. But because you get to receive the energy of your open centers in so many ways, you have the potential through your learning and experience of them, to become very wise about the energies they carry. They can easily become filled with stuff that’s not ours!
Back to the closet analogy…
- Are you carrying other’s thoughts/beliefs? Are you keeping a bunch of hats because they were gifted to us over the years, but we will never wear them? Imagine 50 hats piled on the top shelf of your closet.
- Are you holding other’s emotions? Do you look in your closet and see all these colors that make you want to puke, cry, or are just totally dull to you and so you never wear them? Imagine your closet stuffed with so many clothes that the hangers are falling on the ground. They are of all sorts of colors, many you don’t love. For me it would be mustard yellows and browns, but for you it might be another set of colors.
- Do you have a bunch of costumes? Do you have a bunch of items that looked amazing in the magazine or on your friend, but you never feel like it’s the right outfit for you? Imagine the right side of your closet – say a third of it is filled with costumes. And a costume could be anything that is not you. So, if you like to wear comfy casual and you have a bunch of suits, they count. Or, that year you bought all trendy clothes and to you they look like the Jetsons – or maybe they look like the Suzie Homemaker? Maybe all your friends do Yoga (but replace this with whatever – could be any sport or activity) so you get all the yoga attire, but realize it’s not for you. Does this feel good? Do you love opening your closet doors?
Why do we need to let go?
It’s always important to learn what’s yours and what’s not yours before you can clear away what doesn’t belong.
We have nine energy centers in our Human Design Body Graphs. Read more about each of your energy centers here if you are unfamiliar with the themes of each. We always have to notice what’s going on with the conditioning of each of the energy centers before we can clear out what’s not ours.
It takes more energy to wear a mask of what you are not. All of these items are masking who you truly are and weighing down your energy field. You may feel overwhelmed or even sick. You are giving all of your energy to what you don’t love. And then, guess what? You don’t have the energy to do what you love. Your authority becomes cluttered with conditioning and you can’t feel into the best decisions for you. Remember that our life today is the sum of all of the decisions we’ve made so far.
Making Aligned Decisions
How do you make aligned decisions? This is where your Human Design Authority comes in. Your Authority is like a stylist, designed to help you only put in your closet what looks amazing on you, you love it, you cherish it, it is right for you, it makes you happier, lighter, sparklier.
You can find your authority on the summary section of your Human Design chart. Learn, over time, to use your Authority to make decisions that are right for you.
There seven different authorities and I am sure that different places you read about Human Design may have slightly different names for the same categories. They are:
- Sounding board
To learn more about how to use your authority to listen to yourself, check out this blog post.
Cleaning out your closet can be an extremely challenging project. Be nice to yourself! It may take more time than you think. You may have more in your closet than you had previously realized.
Moving Forward into Action
Here’s your Mantra: “I let go of what is not mine so I can be aligned.”
Deleting activities that you find stressful, separating yourself from people that drain your energy, and letting go of emotional baggage (likely that’s not even yours) are all beneficial cuts you can make. In the empty spaces that are left behind, you can add in anything you like.
Just as you have the power to let go of negative beliefs or emotions that you no longer wish to have as part of your life, you can now include the kinds of positive experiences, people, and beliefs that you would like to fill your life with. As you make changes to your life, you can also choose to add in healthier emotions, beliefs, relationships and more.
If you remember anything from this post, I hope it is these two concepts.
The first one is letting go – you know subtraction. Let go of what’s not yours. Determine what is no longer serving you and make a commitment to release them. Less of what you don’t want = more of what you do. To begin editing your life this way, simply think about your positive and negative experiences. When you determine what parts of your life are no longer serving you, make the commitment to remove them — though, it is important to remember that there is no proper timing or way to do this, and patience and compassion for yourself are always important during this process.
Then do the second part and boost what you love. Ask yourself what has brought you pleasure (simple or profound) and consider how you can make those experiences and beliefs part of your life now. With a little editing, you’ll be able to clear out what is no longer serving you and make room in your life for more happiness, love, and wisdom.
Let go of what is not yours + Boost what is.
Allow only what sparks joy.