Human Design Tools

To read an introduction to parenting by type and to learn about Generator and Manifesting Generator children, please click [HERE] to go to Part 1.

You can learn to understand your child – who they are and what they need to stay resilient and self-reliant in the world.

All of our kids are very different from one another. It is important as a parent to know about the design of your kid so you can really see them for who they are and honor them for it. If you’ve guided your child through their decision-making process, you can relish in the joy of watching them flourish with their own decision-making as they grow into adolescence and adulthood.

Do you want to give your kids permission to be more of who they are & less of who they’ve been told to be? Part 2 below covers the other three energy types — Manifestors, Projectors and Reflectors.

The first step is to learn about your own Human Design Type as the parent. You need to understand how you work as well as how your kids work. Next, get the chart for your kid(s) and find out what Type they are. Learn more about your Type in our visual Guidebooks and “Human Design Types”. Look up your free chart: freehumandesignchart.com

Manifestor kids are here to get the ball rolling and initiate things. They have the capacity for short bursts of energy but don’t always have the energy to finish what they start. Our society often does not have the patience for people who don’t see things through from start to finish, which can lead to Manifestor children learning to work much harder than they were meant to with energy they do not have. Help them avoid that trap by teaching your Manifestor children to care for their authentic selves.

Motor centers give initiating power to the Throat Center.
The “motor” centers are the Will, Sacral, Emotional Solar Plexus and Root Centers.

Sleep

Manifestor children sleep best when they are in their own aura away from the energy of others (especially generators and manifesting generators). It’s best for them to lie down for a while before they are tired to discharge any energy they picked up during the day that isn’t theirs. Lying in bed reading a book or listening to music is a great way to unwind. Manifestor children may need more sleep than others, so going to bed early and sleeping in are not unusual. If Manifestor kids wait too long to go to bed, they may have trouble falling asleep and staying asleep through the night. Help them learn how to recognize the right time to head to bed before they are exhausted to settle in for the night.

Power

These kids have a strong tendency towards power struggles. Parents have an intuitive understanding that they have to control Manifestors because they know the kid will do whatever they want to do and they will not know when enough is enough. Since they are not here to get permission from others to do anything, they may push your boundaries intentionally to see how far they can take their power. They are designed to be incredibly capable people who can easily get things started in this world when they are following their inner creative flow. As kids who often believe they don’t need anyone, they may have a tendency to do their own thing or even to run away from home if they feel like it. As difficult as it may be, rather than reacting in anger, try to have a conversation with them about the situation. Punishment, angry reactiveness and extreme forms of control will only break the child. A balance between giving your Manifestor child their freedom while stepping in to make sure they are safe (they are children after all!) is of the utmost importance.

Self-trust

As difficult as it may feel, as the parent of a Manifestor you must learn to give up the reins whenever it is possible and safe to do so. Manifestor children need to strengthen their ability to trust themselves little by little. They must learn to listen to their creative flow and urges and follow them as a child. In a world that might often tell them “no,” teaching your Manifestor child to trust him or herself is a true gift.

Anger

The emotional theme of a Manifestor is anger. Teaching your child effective anger management strategies such as taking some time alone, breathing exercises or channeling their anger into sports or other movement practices will be of great value to them throughout their lives. A lot of anger can be avoided when they learn to slow down and inform others who will be impacted by their actions.

Informing

The strategy for Manifestor is to inform the people who will be impacted by their actions (i.e “I am going outside”). They learn quickly not to tell people what they are up to because people are deeply conditioned to tell them to stop. Draw the line when your child’s experimenting is potentially dangerous…but you do need to allow them to try new things without the fear of someone trying to stop them. The more people try to stop them, the more they will learn that they must keep their actions a secret.

Of course, when you hear what they are up to, your reaction may very well often be to stop them! This is natural. However, it’s important to choose your battles wisely with your manifestor child and only stop them when they are in real danger (i.e. “No, you can’t run in the street”). Take a deep breath, master your poker face and help them evaluate their actions before they take them. Consider the people who will be affected by their actions and teach them how to slow down just long enough to inform them what will happen to avoid the angry reactions of those people. It’s important to note that informing goes both ways. Your relationship with your Manifestor kid will be much smoother if you also remember to inform them about anything that will affect them. Rather than yes or no questions, use informative statements with them.

Essential Oil Recommendation for Manifestor Children (and Parents of Manifesors!): doTERRA Breathe (respiratory blend) to dissolve anger!

Projector kids are here to be a guide to direct others. They have a beautiful innate ability to guide and manage others because of their ability to see and understand systems from a birds’ eye perspective. They are able to do this best when they’ve received an invitation from someone who will truly appreciate the gifts they have to offer.

Recognition, Attention and Lovability

Projector children need recognition and attention to learn how to guide appropriately. Ask them questions about their opinion such as, “what do you think about this?” or “What is your advice about this?” Even at age 3. They need to learn how to wait to be asked, and you’ll be surprised at how much insight they have. Give them a place to be heard at the dinner table. Nothing makes a projector child feel more seen and loved than when their family makes space for their insight. When they are not given space to be heard, they may try to force their guidance onto those who have not asked and may become bitter when they are not well received.

Inadequacy

In society, being seen as busy and hard-working can be glorified. Projectors, however, are not designed to do intense physical work, which can even include things like mowing the lawn or projects around the home. Sometimes, they can help you with this work but expecting a Projector to quickly complete this work like a generator could will only lead you to frustration or anger. Removing the expectation of your projector child doing a lot of physical labor will save you much difficulty. Projectors are not lazy, and they can help around the house. But be sure to let them know it’s okay for them to work for short periods and take as much rest as they need in the course of accomplishing their task at hand.

Slowing Down, Resting and Sleeping

Because Projectors need much more rest than the generator types, they may overwork themselves in order to please you, their parent. Helping them discern when enough is enough and when the best times for naps or rest are can help avoid meltdowns in the house. On a similar note, Projectors need a lot of sleep and will sometimes sleep much longer than other types in your household. Know that this is normal and allow that time and space for your little projector. Going to bed to lay down before they are tired is also important for the best quality of sleep.

The Power of an Invitation

When a Projector child acts before receiving an invitation can create a lot of bitterness within them. This might manifest itself as other children calling them “bossy” or “controlling,” even if the Projector really does know a better way to do things and is trying to help everyone. Teach them to value themselves enough to wait for the invitation rather than wasting their wisdom and energy on people who don’t value it. When the Projector kid spends their time doing what they love and honing in on their personal talents, kids will naturally be drawn to their aura and invite them to do things or help guide them.

When your child wants to have friends over, it can work out better if you do the inviting rather than them. As the parent of a Projector child, it’s best for you to facilitate activities for them, otherwise, they may end up pushing people away or not being heard or seen by others. On the same note, you can invite your Projector things to do things in the household or share their wisdom with the other family members.

Honoring Their Innate Wisdom

Projectors are here to be wise about humanity and systems. Asking them to share their wisdom honors them and gives them practice at what they’re here to do — guide others who seek their strengths.

Essential Oil Recommendation for Projector Children (and Parents of Projectors!): doTERRA Digest Zen (digestive blend) to digest all the energy, information and food they take in every day, likely in too large of pieces.

Reflector kids are here to become wise by observing their surroundings. Their life purpose is about magnifying and reflecting what is going on around them. They are mirrors for our societies, barometers of the health of their respective communities. Because of this, they are sensitive to their environments and need to be in a place that makes them feel good, with people and surroundings they enjoy being around consistently.

Environment and Emotional Wisdom

The most important thing to teach a Reflector child is how to process the way their environment makes them feel. Teach them to know when they are unhappy in a particular environment that it’s okay to leave. This includes anything from a playground to a restaurant to a city or a school. Big decisions, like changing schools, are of course difficult. But if the Reflector child is consistently unhappy with their school over time, it is important to look into other options. A Reflector may become sick, withdrawn or have other issues in an environment that is not correct for them. Your child may learn early on to ignore their sensitivities if this most important aspect of their lives is not considered by their caregivers.

Sometimes, certain aspects of your child’s environment can be adjusted in order to improve their wellbeing. Working with your little Reflector and experimenting with them in what feels good and what doesn’t will make them feel cared for.

Recognition and Love

Along with their environment, receiving recognition is also very important for Reflector kids. They may seem clingy at times because they crave the stability of their caregivers’ auras, especially when they are younger. Helping them to recognize their gifts and strengths will allow them to see that they are in fact strong and capable standing on their own. They may need you as parents around them more than other children. They need the consistency of your aura to feel the same and feel stable. When they come home after a long day of taking in the energy of others, recognizing their unique qualities and giving them emotional and physical affection gives them space to relax in the presence of a familiar aura.

Loving your Reflector child teaches them how to love themselves. There is a lot of volatility in their energy so how they experience their energy changes a lot. Teaching them how to love themselves regardless of what is going on around them will be invaluable to them as they move through life.

Me/Not Me

Because Reflectors’ designs are so open, they take in and amplify the energy around them more than any type. Teaching your child that extreme emotions or impulses may be coming from other people around them rather than themselves can give them more peace as they move through the world. Especially during the difficult teenage years, Reflectors may tend to think they are “losing it.” However, they may simply be amplifying their peers’ extremes that come during that time.

The Gifts of Time and Patience

For all major decisions, Reflectors need about 28 days for a full lunar cycle to complete. As children, they don’t need to know all the details of a lunar transit of course, but teaching them to slow down and see how they feel throughout a cycle will help them avoid a lot of disappointment in their lives. The nature of how they experience themselves will change over the course of their cycle, and over the course of many cycles of experimenting with this, they will learn their own patterning. Pressuring them to make decisions quickly (i.e. “Just hurry up and choose something!”) is simply not right for the Reflector child.

In our fast-paced society, it can be difficult for others to understand their slower nature. It’s important to teach your Reflector child to let others know they need some time to think before making a decision. If you are a Manifesting Generator parent, especially, and are jumping around from activity to activity, you must remember to slow down and inform your Reflector kid about what you are doing. This gives them time to catch up with you. When they have consistent support you will find they become very adaptable and will be able to transition smoothly from one step to the next.

Sleep and Rest

Help your Reflector child to recognize when enough is enough. Naps are important to avoid major meltdowns during the day. It’s also helpful for them to get into bed before they are tired to discharge all of the excess energy they’ve picked up during the day.

Essential Oil Recommendation for Reflector Children (and Parents of Reflectors!): Frankincense to help ground and balance the energy that is being taken in and sampled all day.

In Conclusion

Knowing yourself as a parent is just as important as knowing your child. Know your limitations, know the nature of your own energetic design and become comfortable with who you are. The most important gift you can give to your child is your own full self-actualization. If they see you do it, they will believe it’s possible for themselves.

Learn new parenting strategies. If you don’t like the way you were raised or your own default societal patterning, then embark on a journey of experimentation. As with anything new, it will take a little practice and time, but it will be well worth it. You and your children alike deserve to fully enjoy life as your unique, authentic selves.

If you’d like more guidance on your type or your children’s types, feel free to book a reading.

If you would like to learn more about any of the 5 Human Design Types, get the guidebook for each type.

Sources: Quantum Alignment System Certification & “Essential Oils & Emotions” book.

Human Design General

How to parent in a way that honors your kids with Human Design -Adventures in Parenting Part 1

December 5, 2019December 12, 2019 Human Design Tools

Do you want to honor your kids for who they are while making your life as a parent easier?

You can learn to understand your child – who they are and what they need to stay resilient and self-reliant in the world.

Loving your kids is one of the fiercest and most powerful love experiences in the world. It’s likely the only relationship where you would throw yourself in front of a car to save them without a second thought.

The perspective we have on raising kids is often based on our various forms of social conditioning. Naturally, we bring our own biases to the way that we parent through our value systems and the way that we ourselves were raised. Sometimes, we are simply hungry, tired or stressed and our children see us at our worst. Human Design helps you approach parenting differently. It gives you a new and balanced perspective based on the truth of who you are and the truth of who your children are. It empowers you to recognize how you operate energetically to parent your children in a way that is more honoring and respectful for everyone involved.

Human Design is like a map for your life. It is a powerful tool that grants you permission to be yourself in this life. When you entered this world, you were your most authentic self. But along the way, well-meaning parents, teachers, and society told us who we should be or how we should act. We may have learned to put on masks to please others, but that ends up causing us pain.

Knowing Human Design as a parent helps you take care of yourself so you can be ready to react appropriately for your kids. It’s the place to start. However, as adults, we may have a lot of work to shed what is not ours because we have been conditioned for many years. Without learning about your own Human Design you may pass your own conditioning onto your kids without meaning to.

The blessing that comes from learning about your kid’s Human Design is that we, as parents, can avoid conditioning our children to be who they are not. We can make their life easier and they can become more confident in how they navigate the world. This also makes our lives easier as parents.

Do you want to give your kids permission to be more of who they are & less of who they’ve been told to be?

Generator kids are here to provide the workforce energy to the world by doing things that truly get them excited. Generator energy is sustainable and is rooted in the sacral center.

Connecting with the Sacral and Self-trust

The sacral is all about workforce and life force energy, and asking your child yes or no questions keeps their sacral energy turned on. Giving them options will only confuse their sacral. Some examples of good ways to phrase questions are, “Would you like to brush your teeth?” “Would you like to have an apple?” rather than, “What do you want to do?” or “What do you want to eat?” Giving them yes or no questions like this empowers them to make choices that excite them and make them happy. The answer they need is already inside them, but as children, they will need help practicing this.

Generator children are born with their sacral turned on but often have that light dimmed by conditioning. A Generator kid is made to be lit up and excited by the things they are doing. Keeping their sacral energy active gives a Generator child a great deal of self-trust which will be very important for them as they grow up and make more and more important decisions. As a parent, teaching your Generator child to trust themselves and their sacral response is truly a gift to the world.

Waiting to Respond

One of the best things you can teach your Generator kid is to wait until they are recognized to respond or speak. You’re not teaching them to stay quiet or to dim their light. Rather, you are teaching them to save their energy for times when it is recognized. For example, you can teach your child to stay quiet in class until the teacher gives them something to respond to. When the Generator child is comfortable in their own energy, the teacher won’t have a problem recognizing that and will naturally call on them to share their answers. If they wait to be recognized, they will be. Speaking without being recognized can lead to frustration because what they’re saying may not be well received.

Frustration

Generator children have a stair-step learning curve. They may find they are very good at something in the beginning and then hit a plateau and feel stuck and frustrated. You can use yes or no questions such as “Do you want to keep going?” or “Do you want to quit baseball?” to find your child’s true answer despite any frustration they may be experiencing. Once they’ve given you their answer, help them learn to stay true to their sacral response by either pushing onward with the activity or quitting it depending on their answer. The interesting thing about the frustrating plateau is that mastery is often just on the other side of it. A great resource for young children experiencing Generator frustration is the book “Frogslime — A child’s guide to calming down”.

Learning techniques like the ones in this book or others like meditation and breathing exercises can help a generator kid get through this frustration.

Attention and Lovability

Setting aside time to be with your Generator child, specifically doing what they want to do makes them feel loved and fulfilled. Parents’ reinforcement of their worth gives them the recognition that they crave so much. When a Generator kid is not recognized for their gifts and talents, they may unconsciously move towards getting revenge on those who have not seen or heard them, even if it was unintentional. Scheduling a specific time to make sure your full attention is on them is excellent preventative medicine for the Generator child’s soul.

Play and Sleep

Generator children have a lot of energy. If they are not physically tiring themselves out during the day, they may have trouble falling and staying asleep. They need a lot of physical play time so that they have a chance to wear themselves out — with all of the electronic devices today this can be a challenge. Teaching them to regularly move their body from a young age will help them know for themselves how good it feels.

Essential Oil Recommendation for Generator Children (and Parents of Generators!): Peppermint to dissolve frustration!

Manifesting Generator kids are similar to Generator kids in that they have a sacral response. However, they fall into their own category due to some nuances that make them special. They are also here to bring their workforce energy into the world. While a pure Generator is designed to do one thing at a time, a Manifesting Generator is actually designed to skip steps and/or be working on more than one thing at a time.

Motor centers give initiating power to the Throat Center.
The “motor” centers are the Will, Sacral, Emotional Solar Plexus and Root Centers.

Connecting with the Sacral

The Manifesting Generator child is much like the Generator child, as they are both Generator types with a defined sacral. The sacral is all about workforce and life force energy, and asking your child yes or no questions keeps their sacral energy turned on. Giving them options will only confuse their sacral. Some examples of good ways to phrase questions are, “Would you like to brush your teeth?” “Would you like to have an apple?” rather than, “What do you want to do?” or “What do you want to eat?”

Giving them yes or no questions like this empowers them to make choices that excite them and make them happy. The answer they need is already inside them, but as children, they will need help practicing this. Once they’ve made their decision, let them know it’s okay for them to skip steps and to do multiple things at once. They may be told in their life, “Choose one thing and stick to it!” but this is not necessarily correct for an MG. Help them trust themselves and learn to follow their own unique flow even if no one understands it.

Attention and Lovability

You won’t need to give quite as much attention to a Manifesting Generator child as you would a pure Generator. They have more independence like the Manifestor child, so make sure they learn to inform you (and anyone else they may affect) of what they are about to do. Despite their Manifestor independence they still do need attention and recognition for who they are. Like Generator children they may channel their anger and frustration into getting revenge for not being heard.

Decisiveness and Trusting Themselves

Manifesting Generator children are born with their sacral turned on but often have that light dimmed by conditioning. An MG child is made to be lit up and excited by the things they are doing. Keeping their sacral energy active gives them a chance to learn to trust themselves.

Like a Generator, they should wait to respond to something outside of themselves before acting on a decision, but they should also envision the possible outcomes before they act. As a parent, it is very helpful for you to help them with this as it is not easy to slow a Manifesting Generator down. Help them slow them down so they can think “What would happen if” – it’s very important for them to stop and imagine this to respond in a more effective way. And, like a Manifestor, before they act, it is beneficial for them if they inform anyone who may be affected by their actions.

Balance of play and rest

Manifesting Generator kids will need a lot of play time and exercise to wear themselves out during the day. With all of the electronic distractions available today it can be easy for them to spend too much time being stationary, but if they don’t tire themselves out during the day it will be very difficult for them to fall asleep at night. You may also find that they are unable to stay asleep through the night. This is due to all of the built-up, excess energy that hasn’t been released during the day.

Because of the amount of energy a Manifesting Generator naturally has, you may find that your child wants to participate in more than one athletic activity. For other children, choosing one sport or activity to focus on can be good, but for an MG child, it’s okay to be doing many different things at once. If you ask them if they’d like to try a new activity and their sacral says yes, then it’s a great idea to try it out.

Frustration and Anger

Manifesting Generator children can experience both frustration and anger as emotional themes. When they do not envision their potential experiences or when they don’t inform about what they’re going to do, they can become angry when things don’t work out. Others may also become angry at them; for example, their school teacher may become angry when your MG child walks out of the classroom without asking because they needed to get something out of their backpack in the hallway. The frustration comes most when the people around them are not going as fast as them or trying to slow them down. Again, teaching your MG child how to inform and making sure their sacral says “yes” before acting will relieve a lot of their frustration.

Essential Oil Recommendation for Manifesting Generator Children (and Parents of MGs!): Breathe Respiratory blend or Wild Orange to dissolve frustration & anger.

In Conclusion

Click [HERE] to read Part 2 — Parenting Manifestors, Projectors and Reflectors with Human Design.

If you’d like more guidance on your type or your children’s types, feel free to book a reading.

If you would like to learn more about any of the 5 Human Design Types, get the guidebook for each type.

Sources: Quantum Alignment System Certification & “Essential Oils & Emotions” book.

Human Design General

Understanding your life through the 5 Human Design Types

October 31, 2019November 13, 2019 Human Design Tools

Every single human is one of the types.

Human Design brings together principles of Astrology, the I Ching, Kabbalah, the Chakra system & Quantum Physics to create a distinctive system that acknowledges and celebrates the uniqueness in each human – no two charts are alike. Human Design is a beautiful tool for self-awareness. We have all experienced conditioning and expectations from the world around us and it causes us pain when we are not being our true selves. Learning about the Human Design Types is the first step to acceptance. It is about accepting yourself – but also having compassion and acceptance for others. The five energy types in Human Design all work differently, none better or worse than the other, just different.

The five (5) Human Design Types

Manifestor
Generator
Manifesting Generator
Projector
Reflector

Roles on earth by Type

Manifestors are here to get things started
Generators are here to build
Manifesting Generators are here to build & find efficiencies
Projectors are here to direct & guide
Reflectors are here to be a mirror for their community

Approximate % of the population

Manifestors (9%)
Generators (35%)
Manifesting Generators (35%)
Projectors (20%)
Reflectors (1%)

Strategy by Type

Manifestor – Inform those they will impact
Generator – Wait to respond to a sign
Manifesting Generator – Respond & Inform
Projector – Wait to be invited
Reflector – Wait a full moon cycle

And now let’s dive in to each Type a little

Human Design Manifestors initiate!

Your Essence: Internal non-verbal creative flow.

In the chart you are a Manifestor because you have an open Sacral & one motor to your Throat. Your energy will come in bursts and then you need to rest and retreat in between.

Your gift is initiating people into change & transformation through your creative flow. You’re here to have an impact & to experience creative freedom. You possess the energy to initiate and bring your vision into reality.

Your emotions as a guide: Anger is a sign of creative disruption. It is about not activating full flow of creative power. It’s meant to give you a signal, so you get back in alignment.

Strategy is your way of being in the world. Your Strategy is to “Inform” those you will impact with whatever you decide to do. You don’t have to get their approval; you just need to let them know what you are doing. It will create the path of least resistance. When you inform, you decrease resistance and therefore your own anger and the anger of others.

Flow: Manifestors are unique in that you require nothing from outside of yourself. Inspiration & your drive to create comes from within. It’s like you have a “divine spark” of creative flow. Because of this, it’s important to maintain a consistent connection with your higher self/internal voice.

Decision Making: Let your authority guide you to which ideas to act on. Acting from this inner truth will allow your full manifesting potential to be expressed. In the summary of your chart there will be something next to the word authority. It will either be emotional, splenic or ego.

Human Design Generators transmute!

Your essence: To be masterful of who you are and be a builder.

In the chart you are a Generator because your Sacral (second to bottom square) is defined (colored) in your chart. Your energy is sustainable.

Generators are the work force & life force energy of the world. You have a sparkly, juicy aura when you are doing the right work and you can light up the world.

Your emotions as a guide: Frustration arises when you have lost momentum or gone off your path. It’s meant to give you a signal, so you get back in alignment.

Strategy is your way of being in the world. Your Strategy is to “Wait to Respond” to signs or things outside of yourself. Response can be as subtle as you are driving, and you are getting hungry and you decide to get off the ramp to eat some food. Or it could be bigger like someone asking if you want to join their business. Don’t push, wait for life to unfold to you.

Goal: Find things that light you up. As a Generator you have this big, open, beautiful magnetic aura. It’s like this spiral of energy that brings things and even people towards you. Because your aura is so penetrating, the world is better off if Generators are doing work that lights them up. When you are happy and inspired by your work, everyone around you feels it and is also lit up. Your aura effects the people around you.

Decision Making: You can figure out what you really want to be doing by getting to know your Sacral. If you need clarity on anything, have someone ask you yes or no questions and answer with your Sacral sound.

How do you Generators go about finding the right work?

It’s about getting to know your Sacral. The sacral response gives the generator inner authority and permission to let go of what they feel obligated or compelled to do. Learn about your Sacral (coming soon).

Human Design Manifesting Generators bend time!

Your essence: Find the most effective & efficient way to do things – you find the quickest route through things.

In the chart you are an Manifesting Generator because your Sacral is defined in your chart (like a Generator) plus you have one of the four motor centers to your Throat Center (like a Manifestor). Your energy is sustainable.

Manifesting Generatorss are the work force & life force energy of the world. You are uniquely capable of doing more than most. You thrive on multi-tasking and you are here to show the world that we can do things in a different way at a different speed.

Your emotions as a guide: Frustration + Anger (together = impatience) arises when your creative process is disrupted and you have lost momentum. The emotions are meant to give you a signal, so you get back in alignment.

Strategy is your way of being in the world. Your Strategy is to “Wait to Respond” & “Inform”. First, respond to signs outside of yourself. Response can be as subtle as you are driving, and you are getting hungry and you decide to get off the ramp to eat some food. Or it could be bigger like someone asking if you want to join their business. You then need to inform those you will impact. Following your strategy is the path of least resistance.

Goal: Find things that light you up. As an Manifesting Generator you have this big, open, beautiful magnetic aura. It’s like this spiral of energy that brings things and even people towards you. Sometimes you have to try things on (think throwing spaghetti) to see if they are right for you. When you are happy and inspired by your work, everyone around you feels it and is also lit up. Your aura effects the people around you.

Human Design Projectors orchestrate!

Your essence: Manage, guide and direct others.

In the chart you are a Projector because your Sacral is not defined (it’s open/white) in your chart and you have no motor centers to your Throat.

Projectors have the gift of guiding and directing others by knowing how to ask the right questions. Projectors can be gifted organizers and see things that others often miss. They can see the big picture, recognize the talents and gifts of others, and bring people together.

Your emotions as a guide: Bitterness arises when you are depleted (likely from trying to keep up with Generators). It’s a signal that it’s time to replenish your energy. You get bursts of energy which allows you to accomplish a lot in a short period of time. You are also able to absorb sacral energy from others, but it’s not sustainable. You need to schedule rest and know when enough is enough.

Strategy is your way of being in the world. Rather than initiating, your Strategy is to wait to “Be invited”. When you live your strategy, life flows. Wait before you share your wisdom. Even though you intrinsically know how to advise others, if you aren’t invited to share your knowledge, it will fall on deaf ears. The energetic exchange has to be there. Wait to be invited into “big” life decisions such as friendship, romance, career/work opportunities and where to live. You might fear that by waiting, no one will ever invite you. No need to worry, your aura does the talking. A projector who waits will be asked by the right people who value their wisdom.

Goal: Find your people – your niche. You are not here for everyone. Each Projector is here to manage, guide, and direct a specific group of people. Trust that they will invite you to share your wisdom in their lives. Do not waste time with those who are not “your people.” You are too valuable. Don’t try to get recognition from people who don’t see you. They don’t deserve you and you risk burning yourself out. Activate your self-worth. If you don’t find yourself valuable, why should others?

Decision Making: Talk decisions out with trusted people; essentially “guiding” yourself. Don’t worry about what the other person is saying it’s the act of talking it out (your voice, your own guidance) that gives you the answer.

Human Design Reflectors calibrate!

Your essence: To measure through reflection of the human condition & human potential.

In the chart you are a Reflector because no energy centers are colored in (defined), you are a light energy being.

You are a wise observer here to mirror for your community to magnify and reflect back, to sample and to be one with totality. Reflectors are gifted at detecting when something is unusual or out of line around them.

Your emotions as a guide: Disappointment arises when you see unfulfilled potential in others, or you need more time for yourself. Use the emotion as a signal to re-align.

Strategy is your way of being in the world. Your Strategy is to “Wait a Full Moon Cycle”. Reflectors are lunar beings. This makes you sensitive to the moon cycles & the cosmic environment. Like the moon, you have a subtle glow with a powerful influence. Focus on the present moment; who you are today. Being so connected to the moon, you may feel like a different person every day. As a lunar being, your strategy is to connect with the lunar cycle. This means waiting 28 days to make decisions. Use this time to discuss your options with trusted friends.

Goal: Find a healthy community. You can’t change what is inside you, but you can change your environment. It’s important for Reflectors to find the right environment and community to call home. Too much time spent in an unhealthy environment can make them physically sick. Also, learn to detach from the energy you are constantly absorbing from others.

Decision Making: During your moon cycle waiting period, a consistent peer group is important for you as they help you make decisions. Discussing your options with friends allows you to “reflect” your decisions off of them. This is part of your process. When you hear it reflected through someone else, you can get clarity on it. For you, clarity only comes externally. Take your time. Don’t allow anyone to rush you. You will suddenly have clarity, a knowing deep inside, if the offer was right for you or not.

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How to overcome burnout with human design and essential oils

October 21, 2019October 21, 2019 Human Design Tools

In “Are you burned out? Your body, emotions and actions hold the answe r “ you learned where you might find the signs or symptoms of burnout in your life. Are you curious where you might find them in the Human Design Chart?

Each Human Design chart has shapes on it and these are called Human Design Centers. Sometimes they are colored (defined) and sometimes they are white (undefined). The further we are from our true self, the more pain we’ll have in our lives. You will eventually become yourself – you can do it the hard way (crash and burn) or learn how to exist as you are (through Human Design).

Do you have energy to push through and finish everything you start?

Or do you push through things even if you really don’t want to? If you answered yes to either question, you are feeling burnout in the Human Design Will Center.

If you have an Undefined Will Center and you don’t rest, you may be literally unable to do or finish something. Society gives valor to pushing through and not resting until you crash. But you really need to take rest to endure. The Will Center is the center for bringing resources to the material plane but we need to regularly stop working and RE-source ourselves. You will burn out and get sick if you don’t rest.

If you have a Defined Will Center you have the willpower to push through the need to rest. However, all humans will be more prosperous and abundant if they take a cycle of rest. Getting enough sleep and time to relax into doing the things you enjoy doing is vital for you to keep up your intense willpower for a lifetime.

How is your energy? Are you getting a consistent cycle of rest?

IDEA! If you are not currently resting enough, build in cycles of rest! If you’re not resting, there’s often a self-worth issue attached to it. Take some time to consider how you feel when you take time for yourself. Do you feel guilty? Do you think you “should” be doing something else despite your exhaustion? Take some time to journal your answers to these questions.

AFFIRMATION: My contribution to the world is so important that I am going to take care of myself. I am worthy of resting and restoration because when I rest and restore I am more present, more sparkly, more available to my clients, have more energy to do what I need to do, I am better at what I do.

ESSENTIAL OIL SUGGESTION: Bergamot oil boosts your sense of worthiness.

Are you doing too much, or doing things you don’t want to be doing?

Burnout that comes from the Sacral Center is about doing too much or doing things you don’t want to be doing. I can relate to both!

Are you doing what you love? Do you love your work?

If you have a Defined Sacral (Generator or Manifesting Generator) you have sustainable workforce and life force energy. Even if you hate your work and are burned out you can force yourself to keep going. When you respond to the right work, however, you can be sustainable.

Do you know when enough is enough?

If you have an Undefined Sacral (Manifestor, Projector, Reflector) – your energy is not sustainable. Even though you are capable of amplifying workforce energy from the people you are around (you know when you feel like a superhuman), you are unable to sustain that level of intensity for a prolonged period of time. You can borrow and use it, but can’t hang onto it. If you try, it will fry your circuits. This is what creates the theme of not knowing when enough is enough. You are not designed to work in the way we’re traditionally taught despite what society has to say about it.

IDEA! Try Feng Shui for sleeping to protect the open Sacral/centers. Try different things/rituals to eliminate overwhelm for open Sacrals. Useful journal prompts are: Why am I saying ‘yes’ to things I know I don’t have the energy for? What is it specifically that exhausts me and how can I cut that out of my life? How can I transition into something I love that allows me to incorporate cycles of rest?

ESSENTIAL OIL SUGGESTIONS: Lemongrass helps you clear clutter. Lemon helps you detox. Clove and OnGua r d® (protective) blend help you set boundaries and say no to things you don’t want to do.

Are you talking too much? Or, do you have Thyroid issues?

Burnout that comes from the Throat Center is about communicating or manifesting when not being asked or recognized. Are you suffering from thyroid issues? Misuse of the throat center energy is often to blame.

If you are a Manifestor or Manifesting Generator, your Defined Throat can burn out when you are not using you strategy properly — that is, when you are not informing anyone who will be affected by what you’re about to do. On the other hand, maybe you are not using your creative manifesting energy for anything you want to be doing. Conditioning can tell you that you should play it small, but you are designed to do exactly what it is that you want to do, whether that’s working as a CEO or knitting sweaters for kittens. It seems counter-intuitive that a lack of energy usage would cause burnout — but with such a massive amount of energy sitting unused, it will eventually blow up.

For other energy types, evaluate whether you arepushing things out into the world with your Defined Throat that don’t light you up (Generator) or without being invited first (Projector). Following the correct strategy for your energy type prevents the burnout that can result from these actions.

For those of you with an Undefined Throat Center, talking too much in order to gain attention or to be heard can also cause burnout.

If you do have thyroid issues, it can be very healing to identify your type and strategy, take a cycle of rest to heal your burnout, and go forward knowing how to prevent it from occurring again.

IDEAS! For the Manifestor and Manifesting Generator, learn your strategy (informing) no matter how inconvenient it may seem. It will save you a lot of trouble, and therefore will prevent you from experiencing burnout. For the Undefined Throat, try experimenting with silence and let your aura draw others to you. Wait until you are invited to speak (Projector) or wait until you have something in your external reality to respond to (Generator). Reflectors, you can also benefit from experimenting with silence by waiting for others to recognize you and ask for the insight you’ve gained from observing and experiencing your environment.

ESSENTIAL OIL SUGGESTIONS: Frankincense can be soothing when thyroid issues are present. Lavender or chamomile bring a sense of calm when you’re experimenting with silence in lieu of talking too much.

Are you around too much emotional energy?

Burnout that comes from the Emotional Solar Plexus Center is mostly related to the Undefined Emotional Solar Plexus — if this is you, you’re a true empath. You take in and amplify emotional energy from other people. When feelings seem to come out of nowhere, take a look around you and see who you’re with. Chances are you are experiencing the emotional wave of someone in your environment.

IDEA! Remember that with your Undefined Emotional Solar Plexus, learning to detach from emotions that are not yours and becoming an observer through a meditation practice can be very beneficial. Even just taking a step away from an emotionally charged situation for a few minutes can restore balance in your body.

ESSENTIAL OIL SUGGESTIONS! Tea Tree and Marj o ram oils can assist you in shaking off emotional energy that doesn’t belong to you.

Do you have adrenal burnout?

Burnout that comes from the Root often shows up as adrenal fatigue.

The last thing we will quickly touch on is the Root Center. It has to do with adrenaline and stress. So, if you are pushing when your pulse is off, especially if you are a Gen or MG, you can cause adrenal burnout. The Root Center also creates a lot of pressure to do things or finish things, but if you don’t have the energy for that and push through anyway, you’ll eventually burn out. The pressure can feel particularly strong when amplified through an Undefined Root. Your to-do list is never going to end, so learn to let it go for a while and take the rest that your body needs.

IDEA! Celebrate the things you DO accomplish and set aside a specific time to put your to-do list aside and relax. If something doesn’t need to be done today (like it’s not urgent & important), it’s okay to do it later.

ESSENTIAL OIL SUGGESTIONS: Basil is great for supporting the adrenals. Arborvitae or Vetiver can help bring a sense of groundedness when the pressure feels like too much.

I leave you with this…

What are you really seeking to create in your life? Does your sustainability need to be restored before you can be creative? You can’t create when you are empty. If you answered yes to the questions above, consider where you might need to take a break. You only get one sweet body in this lifetime, and it’s worth taking good care of it.

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Are you burned out? Your body, emotions and actions hold the answer.

October 19, 2019October 21, 2019 Human Design Tools

Do you have the energy to do what you love?

Did you know that burnout is the number one reason why you may not be manifesting what you want? It has nothing to do with effort, education or your ability to visualize it. It has everything to do with the fact that you don’t have the energy to create what you want to create.

If you have been living a life that is not aligned with the truth of who you are, you have spent a lot of energy trying to be someone you are not.

When you’re burned out, you won’t attract the things or people you want to. You won’t have the energy to do everything you need to do. Burnout is an energy state that keeps you from being fully, joyfully and passionately engaged with life. It keeps you from expressing your authentic potential and making your unique contribution to the world.

Our society says that we shouldn’t rest…but we are all designed to rest.

I have many personal stories of being burned out. Sometimes I haven’t even been able to take care of my health or my house, let alone delve into my passions or add value to the world in a way that only I can. I am a Human Design Generator. If there is one thing I have learned, it’s that if I am not doing what I love – really, if I say yes to things I really want to say no to — my body tells me in a big way! Also, in the long run, something I said ‘yes’ to but didn’t love might stress me out so much I might not finish it anyway. We are all here to bring our special gifts to this earth and we all deserve to rest and take care of ourselves.

Do you want to know how you can tell if you are burned out?

Burnout can show up in a variety of ways and is a state of chronic stress that leads to physical and emotional exhaustion, cynicism and detachment, and feelings of ineffectiveness or feeling stuck. (pyschology today) It doesn’t happen in an instant; rather, it builds over time and therefore often goes unnoticed until it’s too late. Saying ‘yes’ when I want to say ‘no’ eventually leads to a major rebellion from my one and only body.

Possible physical symptoms of burnout:

Feeling tired and drained most of the time
Lowered immunity – i.e. you get colds more
Frequent headaches, back pain or muscle pain
Change in appetite or sleep habits

Possible emotional symptoms of burnout:

Anxiety
Loss of motivation
A cynical or negative outlook
Self-doubt and sense of failure
Feeling helpless, trapped, defeated
Decreased satisfaction and sense of accomplishment

Possible behavioral symptoms of burnout:

Procrastination, resistance
Avoidance
Shutting others out
Taking out frustration or anger on others
Failing to show up for work or showing up late

Do you identify with any of these symptoms?

Don’t worry! You aren’t stuck. You can heal burnout. You may imagine that the only way to heal burnout is the popular notion of “self-care” — spending hundreds or thousands of dollars on messages, beach getaways or even just spending days at a time lounging at home in a silk bathrobe. But, you don’t necessarily have to quit your day job to heal yourself. Resting is not the only thing that can resolve burnout. Human Design is a huge help in that it shows you possibilities of where you may be taking in other people’s energy. This can cause you to take on inauthentic energy without realizing it. We lose energy when we are not being true to who we are. If you are not being who you are, you can be burned out in a different way. It’s not just about doing or not doing — it’s about alignment with your Self.

Burnout has everything to do with living as your not-self. What I mean by that is you’re doing something or being someone that is not true to who you really are. The more someone lives in-authentically, the greater the pain, suffering and chance for physical illness.

It takes more energy to resist being you than to actually be in alignment. It is easier to resist in the short run, but then you get burned out! Burn out eventually pushes you into alignment. How? Your body doesn’t hate you! Your body wants to be healthy and whole and it’s goal is to bring you there no matter what. Illness that comes on as a result of being totally burnt out can knock you out of living as your not-self and bring you a fuller and more beautiful life.

Burnout can be healed.

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Sources: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/high-octane-women/201311/the-tell-tale-signs-burnout-do-you-have-them and Quantum Alignment System with Karen Curry Parker.

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How to use essential oils to enhance the Human Design Throat Center gates

August 14, 2019October 21, 2019 Human Design Tools

If you already know about the basics of the Human Design Throat Center, this information will cover more specifics and include essential oil ideas that can be leveraged for support.

There are 11 gates in the Human Design Throat Center

Do you know that energies in the Throat Center in Human Design have voices?

Regardless of whether you have an Open (Undefined) or Defined Throat Center, if you have individual gates Defined (colored part way) within your Human Design Throat Center (see picture), you will have a more specific way of sharing things. Your respective voice(s) will depend on which specific gates are defined in your chart. Your chart will indicate the personalized way that you present your communication based on your Human Design. Your communication style can come from your actual voice and it may also be shared by the words you choose, the art you create, your brand, or anything you put out into the world.

The Human Design gates have specific means of sharing information using your voice and you can choose to enhance and make the communication process easier using specific essential oils.

GATe 16 is an amazing voice of enthusiasm.

In Human Design, Gate 16 has a voice that is enthusiastic. When you have Gate 16 defined in your Human Design chart, you share information with intense and eager enjoyment or approval. You exude energetic interest. This is a gift to others and most people love to be around this kind of voice. When you are not feeling enthusiastic or you tend to bring something down or criticize (instead of lifting things up), essential oils can help.

Wild Orange is the essential oil for abundance, the crux of enthusiasm. Diffusing Wild Orange is a way to share the oil and lift the spirits of anyone in the general vicinity.

Gate 62 is a grounded voice of practicality.

In Human Design, Gate 62 is a voice that shares in a practical way. You can share what is likely to succeed or be effective in real circumstances versus just theories or ideas. People need to hear this voice, especially when they have a lot of grand ideas or inspirations coming in and they are confused by what to do with them.

Sometimes you may be swept up in the idea that things need to be fantasy or surreal, but the grounded voice of Gate 62 is needed for balance. If you are feeling ungrounded in what you are sharing, try smelling Lavender essential oil or rubbing a few drops onto the bottoms of your feet. Lavender essential oil helps you speak your truth.

Gate 23 is a present, real-world voice of innovation.

In Human Design, Gate 23 has a voice intended to talk about innovative thoughts and ideas. When you have Gate 23 defined in your Human Design chart, you can tease out the critical and relevant pieces from something that is new or innovative. Without the helpful interpretation of the Gate 23 voice, the idea might just come out as weird. If you wait for the right timing, Gate 23 can be a very influential voice that helps the world move into the future.

If you are need support in letting go of what is not needed and tuning into what you can logically share, try Lemon essential oil. You can inhale the fresh scent of Lemon essential oil and be able to focus on important issues while releasing unneeded toxic thoughts.

Gate 56 is a fascinating voice of storytelling.

In Human Design, Gate 56 is a voice of teaching through stories. You likely share through metaphors and stories and you may be the creative initiator of experience where your story becomes everyone’s story.

Lessons are shared from generation to generation through stories and metaphors help us understand and integrate the lessons of the stories. Everyone else gets to be the person in the stories through the virtue of the story – everyone’s individual experience can become our own – collective – it’s why stories move us so much. Stories we share are sacred and deserve to be recognized and invited out of you. If you tell people stories when you are not invited, you may come across as boring.

If you want to express your stories in a clear and articulate way, try using a few drops Spearmint essential oil. Spearmint essential oils helps you tune into what you really want to share and inspires clear and confident verbal expression.

Gate 35 is a TRANSFORMATIVE voice of experience.

In Human Design, Gate 35 has a voice that allows you to meaningfully share what you have done or what you have experienced in life. You may enjoy experiencing different adventures in life and collecting experiences just so you can share them. Gate 35 covers an expression via an experiential way; it’s not about being masterful but it’s about having experiences and sharing them. Your path could be through adventures, travel, or just every day experiences in your life.

If you want to share your experience in a meaningful way, try smelling Doug Fir essential oil. Doug Fir teaches about learning from and valuing experiences and it reminds us that there is valuable wisdom in experience.

Gate 12 is a voice that channels the divine & connects us.

In Human Design, Gate 12 has a voice that can be an articulate wordsmith because it plugs into the super consciousness. You have the capacity to “channel” simply being plugged into a higher awareness that comes naturally for you. The Gate 12 voice has a moodiness to it as it connects to emotions. You may be “in the mood” and be very bold or you may “not be in the mood” and be very shy. When the mood is right, and the right people are listening, the Gate 12 voice is very creative and expressive and can sometimes described as romantic.

If you want to deepen your connection and communication with source/super consciousness, try Ylang Ylang essential oil. Ylang Ylang connects you to the intuitive way of receiving information and shows you more clearly what your heart already knows.

Gate 45 is a voice of natural leadership.

In Human Design, Gate 45 has a voice that says “I lead” others into using their resources better. Gate 45 is the voice that might feel like a CEO or a King/Queen and is an amazing ability to teach and transmit information. The Gate 45 voice has a beautiful energy for being up in front of the room however it is not a democratic leadership; your voice may tell others “this is how it’s going to be” in a digestible way. The Gate 45 voice needs to come from a place of service to the higher good or it may feel like a “diva” energy or a voice that wants to control others in a dysfunctional way.

To connect with the nurturing, guidance and protection needed with this energy, try rubbing Frankincense oil onto your wrists or feet. Frankincense is literally the King of essential oils and it helps you let go of low vibrations that might keep you stuck in a place of negative ego instead allow you to connect with the truth.

Gate 33 is a voice that tells stories of the past.

In Human Design, Gate 33 has a voice that tells what has happened before or what happened in the past. You could be a story keeper, you remember, a ritual keeper, a historian and a secret keeper. The Gate 33 is the energy of an observer and holds on to the story until it is asked to share. Hold until the timing is right, or you will just be blabbing secrets. You have a voice that can transmit stories of the past when you are recognized. Because the stories are rooted in experience and can be about sharing rituals, your voice may say “I remember”. Your Gate 33 voice maintains memories from the past and shares them with the world when the timing is right.

If you want to deepen your connection to source, try using Siberian Fir essential oil. Siberian Fir helps you sort out the patterns and traditions from the past. Some must be let go of while others can be positive. It can bring light to what needs to shared so that patterns that are negative or damaging can be broken.

Gate 8 is a confident voice making a difference.

In Human Design, Gate 8 has a voice that says “I make a difference”. The Gate 8 voice is very expressive about making a creative contribution to the world. You want to use your Gate 8 voice to get things done, make a difference and create change in the world. You will give creative direction when you are asked for what you have to share; all you have to do in the meantime is be yourself and “walk the talk”. When the energy of the Gate 8 voice is used correctly, it is inspiring and creates change by leading by example.

If you want express your creative or unique spirit, try diffusing Tangerine essential oil. Tangerine essential oil encourages joy, creativity and spontaneity and brings about abundance of creative energy that flows into the heart and manifests in the real-world.

Gate 31 is powerful voice of democratic leadership.

In Human Design, Gate 31 has a voice that expresses natural leadership. The Gate 31 voice is chosen by others to share (i.e. elected by the collective verses something like a king/queen) and is a voice that needs to be recognized to be effective when offers service to others. When the Gate 31 voice is chosen to share it can be mind-blowing by demonstrating the highest potential for human unity in a singular direction; serving, delegating and allowing everyone to be heard. To be of highest service, let the group you are leading tell you how they want to be led. Your voice represents the people you are leading while you are simply the figure head.

If you want to let go of the need to control and deepen your awareness of those you want to serve, try a few drops of Cypress essential oil. Cypress helps you flow with the needs of those you serve. It allows things to unfold more naturally for the good of the whole.

Gate 20 is influential unifying voice.

In Human Design, Gate 20 has a voice that is about unifying other people and gathering them around ideas. The Gate 20 voice can unify others to possibilities of the future, but it’s an energy to be used in the present. You have the capacity to know what skills, talents and gifts of people around you and your voice has the power to organize and unify the energies together. Gate 20 can be a magical voice if you wait to be asked or recognized. In contrast, when around certain energies/people this voice can bring out a sharp tongue. You have the potential to either tear people down or powerfully lift them up with your voice, which do you choose?

If you want to deepen your connection to what is or who is around you, try Marjoram essential oil. Marjoram teaches trust, warmth and connection so you can unify others for the greater good.

Every gate has something to offer and I have learned to appreciate how I can contribute using the power of my personal gates. For further information, you are invited to check out my Instagram & Pinterest content. I hope that this was helpful and that you can make enhance your connections in the world.

Sources: The Definitive Book of Human Design & Understanding Human Design, Essential Oils and Emotions. Disclaimer: These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.

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Human Design Throat Center Basics: Communication and Manifestation

August 12, 2019August 14, 2019 Human Design Tools

The Throat Center in Human Design is the energy for communication and manifestation.

The power and importance of words are central to the creative process. It’s difficult to do things without being able to explain them using words. How the throat is configured (e.g. which gates are defined) will determine how someone is able to manifest and is able to do and what they talk about. Your voice is characterized by the particular way that you speak.

If you have an Open (Undefined) Throat Center (indicated by a white colored square near the throat in your chart), you have the natural ability express things the way that best meet the needs of who you are communicating with at that moment (.e.g. Oprah becomes the voice for the room when she goes on stage). The Open Throat is designed to remain silent until it is recognized, invited or asked to be heard. When the Throat Center receives pressure from societal communication energy, it is not connected to anything which results in feeling pressured to talk. When you have open centers (indicated as a white box on your Human Design Chart), you take in other people’s energy(ies) and amplify the energy more extremely; (e.g. you may talk excessively at a party).

Often people with Open Throats will say they feel invisible however your purpose is to be wise about communication and action. You need access to energy in the Throat Center by being recognized or asked. If you misuse your throat to get attention/recognition, you can blow out your thyroid, throat or voice. The key to success with an Open Throat is to be quiet in order to be seen and heard.

If you have a Defined Throat Center (indicated by a black colored square near the throat in your chart), you will speak about different things or maybe from a different angle or voice depending on what other Human Design Centers are connected (indicated by a solid line) or what other gates are defined in your particular Human Design Chart. All Manifesting Generators and Manifestors have a defined throat (is this true?) and some Generators have a Defined Throat.

Generators and Projectors with Defined Throat Center still need to be recognized in order to effectively be heard when they talk because they do not have a “motor” to your Throat Center. The motors include the Will, Emotional Solar Plexus, Sacral and Root Centers: if you are not invited or recognized first, you will not be heard if you just blurt things out – like opinions, stories, your feelings, etcetera. Being recognized is just being asked a question or asked for your opinion or recognized for the value you have to offer in some way.

You can find out if it’s okay to talk about something if you simply say something like “I have an opinion on this, do you want to hear it?”. Sometimes your relationship helps with the recognition; for example, if you are a coach or counselor and you have something to say, you are already recognized in the relationship and can offer your ideas. But if you try to do the same thing with your friends/family without knowing if they actually want to hear your opinion, it can be taken as criticism or they may just be annoyed. If you are doing something online and people have followed you, you are likely recognized for what you are putting out there.

When you have a defined Throat Center, it is considered to be defined because it connects to another Center. To give more context, the Throat has broader connections based on which Human Design Center is connected.

For example, if your Throat Center is connected to your Ajna Center:

A defined Ajna Center (colored upside down triangle) indicates that you tend to speak your mind when asked. It is still important to “wait to be invited” to communicate most effectively.

A defined Spleen Center (colored right pointing triangle) indicates that you tend to speak about what’s healthy for you and what you sense and feel on a physical, visceral or intuitive level. You are best heard when you are invited to share.

A defined G/Self Center (colored diamond below throat) indicates that you tend to talk from the depth of who you are which can make you vulnerable to criticism. You are best heard when you are invited to share about yourself.

A defined Will/Heart Center (colored upwards pointing triangle below throat) indicates that you may start sentences with “I” and talk about yourself a lot. You have the potential to display your ego in a negative way, but it doesn’t have to be seen negatively if you are in a place to surrender who you are to serve something bigger than you individually (i.e. you can provide resources for other people). Sometimes people may shut you down by saying “stop talking about yourself” but this is how you were designed to share and you have huge potential to serve the world. You can initiate your sharing (i.e. you do not need to be invited).

A defined Emotional Solar Plexus Center (colored left facing triangle) indicates that you will talk about what you feel and can freely talk about emotions. You can initiate your sharing and when people are around you they feel they can also talk about their feelings.

A defined Sacral Center (colored in square below diamond) indicates that you can talk about work and relationships. You are best heard when you wait to be asked to share.

A defined Root Center indicates that you will talk about what you do or what drives you from a personal perspective. If your Root Center connection makes it to your Throat Center (square near throat) you can initiate conversation and make your voice heard.

This information covers the basics of the Human Design Throat Center and when it is important to be recognized before sharing communications. The different motors including the Will, Emotional Solar Plexus, Sacral and Root Centers have different intents and values which were covered at a high level. If you are interested in learning more about the specific voices of each gate in the Throat Center and which essential oils you can use to support them, please go here.